Tuesday, June 9, 2009

The Nice Guy..

I came across this piece on a blog.. totally exemplifies the kinda person i am. some mite like to associate the word "looser" here... but i believe.. the world needs more people like me...

I know i do have a bit of female readership on my blog.... so Mia, shy, gunj, umang.. et al. would love it if you guys would share your take on this..


This rant was written for the Wharton Undergraduate Journal

This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.
This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.
This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.
The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, and your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, insane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming...

13 comments:

d gypsy! said...

but nice guys are always so much loved... no?

i dont really agree with the post..

Rahul... in City of Dreamz said...

Yeah! They are.. but in a friendly way..

and they remain that way thru life...

Dunno why the "next step"s never taken with da nice guys...

gunj said...

is he guy who wrote this single?? i'd totally like to date him!!!:P

shy said...

Whoever's written this..Naaaice =P

Nice guys are the best =)

Rahul... in City of Dreamz said...

@gunj: Well, thankfully i dunno who wrote this... :) but the guy who posted this on this blog... will he be a good substitute? atleast the thoughts are same!!! :)

@Shy: Bas.. yahi bol ke sab reh jaate hain ki they are the best.. nothing more happens for these poor souls! :)

Mishti said...

Still... let's be nice (as I consider one such nice-(tom)-boy; it makes a lot of sense, really :)

Nice to see you back on Blog, dude! :)

Rahul... in City of Dreamz said...

@Mishti: nice to see you back on my blog Mishti! :)

Mysterious Mia said...

cheers mate....just totally loved the way it was written.....n trust me gals wanna date such guys just that the gals is is referring to in his post are not looking for such guys.....

anyways nice read

Rahul... in City of Dreamz said...

@ Mia: So yopu are telling me that the search is on for "nice girls"??

Blue said...

hey!! awesome post. can u share the blogger's address?

Rahul... in City of Dreamz said...

@Blue-Wish i knew that... i guess nice guys prefer to remain in obscurity...

bibin said...

Hi

Its a nice post, but i believe that every person has two sides, a good and a bad. i believe that relationships are made by god. So he creates circumstances to ensure that realtionships lasts or he creates instances that ensure that relationship does not last. I believe its not in our control. I know one thing for certain, that these girls are the biggest losers at the end of the day. Having said that i dont believe that a guy is nice to a girl only because she is girl. I am sure he sees something in her- good or bad. I believe that all of us do have drawbacks and i am sure all of us guys, though would have shown courtesy at some point would have had some kind of lustful thoughts about her.

Sorry dude i am a little philosophical, so if you find it boring pardon me. :). Please go through my blog and post your comments would appreciate it.bibinrk10.wordpress.com

regards
bibin

Realistic me... said...

Very well written post!! :)

Cheers to all the nice guys!