tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post2404726810614033614..comments2023-10-26T18:00:32.783+05:30Comments on Life Story in Dream City: Arranged Vs. LoveRahul... in City of Dreamzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03663805102555331877noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-42576001898810367502013-03-26T14:11:37.439+05:302013-03-26T14:11:37.439+05:30Greetings! I know this is somewhat off topic but I...Greetings! I know this is somewhat off topic but I <br />was wondering which blog platform are you using for <br />this website? I'm getting fed up of Wordpress because I've had <br />problems with hackers and I'm looking at alternatives for another platform. 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I looked on the net to <br />learn more about the issue and found most people will go along with your views on this website.<br /><br /><br />Feel free to surf to my homepage; <a href="http://takemassageclasses.com/" rel="nofollow">http://takemassageclasses.com/</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-34601271020235092392008-06-30T23:36:00.000+05:302008-06-30T23:36:00.000+05:30Life is not about short-cuts,It's about facing all...Life is not about short-cuts,<BR/>It's about facing all the problems, difficulties, challenges, sadness and still having the strength to stand up and face some more.<BR/>Marriage is about allowing someone to share these challenges with you and vice-versa.<BR/>I was in love and in a relationship for 5 years,<BR/>I thought it would go the distance,<BR/>I thought we were made for each other and that nobody can ever split us up.<BR/>I was sooo wrong and our relationship went sour.....<BR/>Today I am still a firm believer of Love Marriages.<BR/>They say it's better to have loved and lost rather than never loved at all...<BR/>I too have many friends that tell me arranged marriage is really amazing and what not....<BR/>I just tell them they haven't known the power that love can grip you by.<BR/>Love is something truly special, and to settle for anything less than that (like in the case of arranged marriages) is injustice to you and her.<BR/>It will be a life of compromise...not a life of equals.<BR/><BR/>But yes, even i have time....as of now i can only hope and pray i get the girl of my dreams...<BR/><BR/>-Rohan<BR/>http://finallygoa.blogspot.comRohanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07169654976782924578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-5440156952116145542008-03-04T13:53:00.000+05:302008-03-04T13:53:00.000+05:30I would like to believe that money and power doesn...I would like to believe that money and power doesn't matter anymore, that it is all about the two people involved, about their choices, but it isn't. I'm not talking about marriages in cities, in urban, educated areas like Mumbai, but the nuptial knots that are tied in the villages in India...<BR/><BR/>I have seen marriages made for these very purposes, and it angers me. However, as you said, if the two people are happy, it's good. I just answered your question whether I would prefer a love marriage or an arranged marriage.<BR/><BR/>But what about the many women who are abused everyday in the name of dowry? What about those women who are forced to marry some drunkard who is the son of some rich businessman? These things happen and will continue to happen if we assume they're absent.<BR/><BR/>You've written that your friend said "there's no better marriage than arranged marriage", and I'm against that. The statement itself says that your friend believes that love marriage is inferior to arranged marriage. I gave my reasons why I didn't like the opinion.<BR/><BR/>About the "discovering" thing, yes, it was just a thought, and maybe I did confuse it with the purpose of arranged marriage. But what I said was that there's no way you can justify arranged marriage with a bleak possibility that the people involved will have fun discovering each other and then like what they find.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12364648261052014402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-27292176306436608012008-03-01T16:03:00.000+05:302008-03-01T16:03:00.000+05:30@Mez: Yup! Done that long back ;)@Freesherry: I li...@Mez: Yup! Done that long back ;)<BR/><BR/>@Freesherry: I like your point of view… atleast you are open to both the ideas.. whatever happens.. it will happen just the way you want it to be. <BR/><BR/>If love happens.. nothing like it… but if it doesn’t.. then life is not that bad too… way to go gal :)<BR/><BR/>@Gunj: Tujhe kya tension hai? tu mast reh.. let things unfold by themselves and at the end of the day you will find that it was worth the wait… abhi to vaise kaafi hai na?<BR/><BR/>@Solitaire: hmmm… but about the fact that the "Westerners" also have the highest rates of divorces… what I wanted to convey is that don’t get into a love marriage just for the heck of it… coz arranged marriage can also give the same happiness and stability too…<BR/><BR/>after all .. happiness matters!! (We both are confused.. I know ;))<BR/><BR/>@Ashu: haaan! simple funda in life leads to no problems… matured.. sensible… and u forgot to add one more thing… loving??<BR/><BR/><BR/>@Chakoli: And this wait n watch game is tantalizing… requires lots of patience :) .. Welcome to my blog :)<BR/><BR/>@Alok: Arre bhai… Past ko present aur future se compare mat kar… you actually think that these days too marriage is all about money n wealth? I beg to differ… its more than that… and my friend didn’t say that love marriage is "bad", he just said that love marriage is a far bigger challenge … coz you are responsible for your own actions… <BR/><BR/>and you are again confusing both the ideas.. no one gets into an arranged marriage bcoz of discovering.. its just a thought.. that’s all..<BR/><BR/>Welcome to my Blog :)Rahul... in City of Dreamzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03663805102555331877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-70792351066927922702008-02-28T18:51:00.000+05:302008-02-28T18:51:00.000+05:30I would still prefer love marriage. The reason? th...I would still prefer love marriage. The reason? there are lots of them.<BR/><BR/>I don't want to write a huge comment, but I have searched around on the net a bit and have found this fact: Marriage as an institution was established as a way to handle the flow of money and wealth. Not about the two beings involved, but about what they owned. Arranged marriage has always been and will keep on representing this fact. That is disgusting to me. Is life about money and power? Nope. It's about achieving what you want to achieve (and of course surviving long enough to reproduce).<BR/><BR/>Your friend says that love marriage is bad because there is no one else to blame? I think that is one of the best things about it. It's your choice, and you have to deal with it, not just sit around blaming your parents and others. It helps your love grow stronger because that love is yours and nobody else's.<BR/><BR/>About the "Discovering" thing, it is true. I agree. But taking such a huge chance, for excitement and suspense? Not my cup of tea.<BR/><BR/>I believe that we fall in "love" because we want to, it's more of a natural instinct. And instincts help us survive. I trust my instinct. And hence I won't accept an arranged marriage, never.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12364648261052014402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-54641269876460242332008-02-27T09:54:00.000+05:302008-02-27T09:54:00.000+05:30LOL...My first visit ot ur post...an really intere...LOL...<BR/>My first visit ot ur post...an really interesting it seems...<BR/>a debate which is continued since ages...<BR/><BR/>I guess irrespective of love/arrange marriages are like stock market...you never know...which way they run.....<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>I have seen many love marr being unsuccessful and many aarnge marr successful...so its just.... wait and watch agme:-0)))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-82506376604970191362008-02-26T23:29:00.000+05:302008-02-26T23:29:00.000+05:30heck, i dont want tht special osmeone, koi bhi nor...heck, i dont want tht special osmeone, koi bhi normal banda chalega who is matured and sensible, but there arent anyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-33205123515046628012008-02-26T04:07:00.000+05:302008-02-26T04:07:00.000+05:30This debate never ends does it? I hate the concept...This debate never ends does it? I hate the concept of an arranged marriage. <BR/><BR/>I like what the Westerners do. Pick your own partner when you meet them. No age bar, no hassles about parents not agreeing, dowry, etc etc. And no pressure to marry at a certain age and be afraid that all the good ones might be taken if you don't marry by 30 or something.<BR/><BR/>I say that because I have had several family members and friends who have had arranged marriages and the marriages have ended in a divorce. Not because the parties did not compromise. But because of dowry issues, mental disorders, physical ailments, all hidden from the spouse prior to the marriage.<BR/><BR/>Love marriage or arranged marriage..? They both have its pros and cons. I think in the end the two people marrying should be happy and that's all that matters.Solitairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09751415960885943414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-60105637898145271092008-02-26T01:20:00.000+05:302008-02-26T01:20:00.000+05:30boy that is prolly d most difficult question ive b...boy that is prolly d most difficult question ive been made to think of in my life!!<BR/>it haunts me many a times... n i still dnt f((^&%^ knw what to choose!<BR/>makes me wanna cry more so coz im d most indecisive gurl on earth!!<BR/>hindi mein bolu to meri life mein lagne wali hai bigtime!!Gunjan Aylawadihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03157255108496217120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-19911828555973109572008-02-25T16:20:00.000+05:302008-02-25T16:20:00.000+05:30i guess i'll just let life takes its course and su...i guess i'll just let life takes its course and surprise me.. i mean.. I am 20 and I am not in love with anyone but who knows.. tomorrow I might meet someone I would fall for head over heels and would know that he would be the one i'll live the rest of my life with<BR/>on the other hand I might never get that chance and would end up getting into an arranged marriage (of course to a guy I choose) and then i'll just have the rest of my life to figure him out..<BR/>so whatever it might be.. i just hope it works out in the end :Dfreesherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06733184268481803960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-60036328196704819942008-02-25T13:23:00.000+05:302008-02-25T13:23:00.000+05:30I hope so too. Do participate in the poll on my bl...I hope so too. Do participate in the poll on my blog.Mezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13916802435996239841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-65389123178223660402008-02-24T17:40:00.000+05:302008-02-24T17:40:00.000+05:30@Keshi: Very True indeed.. but love... ah... thats...@Keshi: Very True indeed.. but love... ah... thats a rare commodity.. :)<BR/><BR/>@Ankit: and the reason for the shift is??? Anyway.. welcome to my blog :)<BR/><BR/>@Aphrodite: hmm.. now you have added to what keshi said.. first love.. then respect... lets see what more is expected.But i do agree with you.. but that happens only in a utopian world :) ... thanks for visiting :)<BR/><BR/>@Mez: Dont say that Mez! There will be that special someone in ur life too... bcoz i know how much u believe in love, its only fair that you get what you deserve. Love is what you will definately get.. thru a love marriage or an arrnaged one.. well thats the big question... Amen.. for everything you aspire from life :)<BR/><BR/>@Divya: ahaan ... you cant have your cake n eat it too... :) .. one smart answer eh?? <BR/><BR/>@Ashu: No Marriage situation is not applicable for anyone.. bcoz we all do want to have that special someone in life.. but the big question is till when will you keep searching for that love?Rahul... in City of Dreamzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03663805102555331877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-47443844881029631352008-02-24T17:14:00.000+05:302008-02-24T17:14:00.000+05:30hmmmmmmmmmmmm, have said a lot on this on my blogs...hmmmmmmmmmmmm, have said a lot on this on my blogs. i support love marriage, if no choice wid marriage, given a choice, i d prefer a no marriage situationAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-21814876160387545852008-02-24T16:22:00.000+05:302008-02-24T16:22:00.000+05:30um this tpic was in my mind too :PIn spite of ever...um this tpic was in my mind too :P<BR/><BR/>In spite of everything u mentioned i would still go for love marriage :) ( of course with the approval of parents :P)Lukkydivshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15531559113197498349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-80040650874814137842008-02-23T13:11:00.000+05:302008-02-23T13:11:00.000+05:30Good subjectScary questionInteresting propositionT...Good subject<BR/>Scary question<BR/>Interesting proposition<BR/>Too many answers<BR/>Highest level of subjectivity<BR/>Too many judgments<BR/>Lost as I am<BR/><BR/>I was a firm believer in love marriages. Mind you ‘was’…always used to talking like –Omg! How can u even think of an arranged marriage.It’s such a gamble. Errrrr how can anyone decides their life partner within a matter of few meetings. <BR/><BR/>But alas, things changed…Love proved fatal, gory….Love marriages now seem thing of the past or for just few lucky ones. And now I am gradually getting accustomed to the idea that Arranged marriages might be good too. But hell, I am shit scared of it & still would vote for love marriage provided there is one man in this world who proves that he is a nice loving guy for eternity. <BR/><BR/>Times have changed but my thoughts are still idealistic. No place for me in the love marriage arena, I guess.Mezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13916802435996239841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-77875622124375397982008-02-22T11:02:00.000+05:302008-02-22T11:02:00.000+05:30nice post...wld definitely go for someone i choose...nice post...wld definitely go for someone i choose over a random-third-party-deciding-my-partner type marriage...even if i got introduced by someone else..i wdnt tie the knot before i had known the person for at least one year...nd at the end of the day its love and respect for each other that matter most in a relationship more than anything else...wht say??Aphroditehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13347167603933762778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-47628517753962590692008-02-22T10:57:00.000+05:302008-02-22T10:57:00.000+05:30AHa the age old debate.... I believe in love marri...AHa the age old debate.... I believe in love marriage may be its just a phase coz 2 years back i was a supporter of arrange marriageAnkithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08586410181796539725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-15144995674498291162008-02-22T10:55:00.000+05:302008-02-22T10:55:00.000+05:30arranged or love marriage, married or not, what ma...arranged or love marriage, married or not, what matters is that there is LOVE in the r'ship.<BR/><BR/>:)<BR/><BR/>Keshi.Keshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147250771662427208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-19196095341968071452008-02-21T19:46:00.000+05:302008-02-21T19:46:00.000+05:30@neekuben aka ariel (rite?) - am adding you too.. ...@neekuben aka ariel (rite?) - am adding you too.. :)..<BR/><BR/>and you will be lucky... LM or AM.. good things happen to good people (yeah.. i have been reading your blog) :)<BR/><BR/>Thanks n keep coming :)Rahul... in City of Dreamzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03663805102555331877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-57507345518023088302008-02-21T19:40:00.000+05:302008-02-21T19:40:00.000+05:30@Vitruvian: Yes! i agree! marriage is important.. ...@Vitruvian: Yes! i agree! marriage is important.. and that is why its great that in our culture we have this "provision" of an arranged marriage. No one should have to lead their lives alone.. <BR/><BR/>and the funda of modern trodden path rocks.. but do let us know when u find the lucky chap! :)<BR/><BR/>@Zee: hmmm... but u havent mentioned.. what are u gonna go for?? Ask "the boy" and tell me :)Rahul... in City of Dreamzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03663805102555331877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-46266178001744107372008-02-21T19:32:00.000+05:302008-02-21T19:32:00.000+05:30@Swathi: I dunno.. i am not much of a believer in ...@Swathi: I dunno.. i am not much of a believer in destiny.. i like to know(and do) things that are in my control.. again.. so that i have no one to blame.. no even destiny! Welcome to my blog though :)<BR/><BR/>@Mishti: OOH!!! am i dreaming or her royal highness actually left a comment on my blog?? <BR/>Aur haan.. tu to perennial bacchi hai :) <BR/>Welcome to my blog.. (Ek saal ke baad bol raha hoon)<BR/><BR/>@Radhika: I can agree with "pehli nazar mein pyaar", but pehli nazar mein shaadi???<BR/><BR/>would like to read your post and know your side of story though. Thanks :)Rahul... in City of Dreamzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03663805102555331877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-85932535303654635432008-02-21T13:50:00.000+05:302008-02-21T13:50:00.000+05:30Dude, these my wrestling thoughts, too !I personal...Dude, these my wrestling thoughts, too !<BR/><BR/>I personally think the probablity of having happy married life is like tossing an unbiased coin in the air... 50% Sweet 50% Sour... just like 50% heads %0% tail...<BR/><BR/>some are blessed and some cursed... but then its up to us... whether we quit or keep and attempt to make best of it ...for kidz and family... <BR/><BR/>phew... I hope I am lucky at it... AM or LM.... <BR/><BR/>Nice blog .. I think I going to add you up. And Glad to know that you are Gujju too... YAY ! nNeetalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05270939201703815853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-17889770241398478332008-02-21T10:55:00.000+05:302008-02-21T10:55:00.000+05:30u're right...love marriages are as scary as arrang...u're right...love marriages are as scary as arranged marriages for different reasons u've mentioned! but rather a known one than an unknown one...Zeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02124938389441103859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6304715028344353387.post-68514175121311580812008-02-20T23:55:00.000+05:302008-02-20T23:55:00.000+05:30the kind of societal background we come from marri...the kind of societal background we come from marriage seems more of a necessity than a choice.<BR/>why love..why arranged...why marry at all???<BR/>the concept of arranged marriage makes it imperative for US to 'find' somebody or let our parents quietly do the needful.<BR/>but this system is a wise one in the sense that I believe life is not meant to be lived out alone...supposing this concept didn't exist in society then a lot more people would remain unmarried.<BR/><BR/>as for me...I'm going the modern trodden path..If I'm not in love with someone by a particular age...well my parents arrange a match for me..<BR/>wot say??Sneha Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04639443962901962210noreply@blogger.com